& habits of highly effective People

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Habit 1: Be Proactive

"Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits and that's why it comes first. It says, "I am the caption of my life. I can choose my attitude . I'm responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver's seat of my destiny, not just a passenger."

Quote: A leadership culture is one where everyone thinks like an owner, a CEO or a managing director. It's one where everyone is entrepreneurial and proactive.
Robin S. Sharma

Reflection:what this quote is saying is that be proactive is good because if you want to be proactive you have to be a calm person and be in control of you're life and let someone else be in control of it. like the first quote said you have to be the front seat driver and not a passenger. this is what this quote is trying to say about being a proactive person.

Habit 2:Begin with the end in mind
"Control your own destiny or someone else will." - Jack Welch

 Reflection: Applying this habit is very beneficial in your life whether it is in class, at work, or in anyway particular. By this quote, Covey means to start your day with a mind set of what you want to accomplish that day. It makes a sculpture of how your day will be for the sake of how you want it to actually end. For example, metaphorically speaking you envision yourself climbing a ladder that you built, but when you actually start to build it and you choose wrong pieces to it, it will not help you climb. This is meaning if you chose to do thing the wrong way in your life choices it can put a pause for your goal and take longer to achieve. It would be better if you envision it and do everything right the first way around.

Habit 3:Put First Things First

"Organize and execute around priorities"

Reflection: In life we should always prioritize whats to our benefit for a good life. Its like the abc's, it has a order that it should be in. Our life choices should also be arranged because its for our future. For a teenager its hard not to resist the outside world that has many fun and exciting things. But for us that is hard. Putting school first and doing your work is one of those choices that we should put first because its our future that it holds. Lets say, one night you have a party they invited you to and everyone's going, but you have to do your homework too. This is one of those choices that determines your future. This is the type of priorities you put in your life. My teacher says "two marshmallows" which is a figurative language that says "we give you one marshmallow now and you can eat it or not eat the marshmallow and later on you get  

   another marshmallow meaning you get two for waiting. 



Habit 4: Think Win-Win

"Think win-win or no deal"

Reflection: Reflection: I believe what the quote "think win-win or no deal" means that you have to think of a way in which everyone comes out winning in the situation rather than just one winner. If one person gets the win, then it wouldn't be a fair deal. I ponder on this because everything should be paid by effort and not by a number or trophy. Its good to think about the success of oneself but showing your character by being caring shows better sportsmanship than anything else. Even when your enemy kicks you down, you shouldn't do the same. You should help them up, yes many people are very resilient to what happens in their life but being revengeful isn't a satisfying feeling. It just makes a hole deeper. A situation would be that there are two race track runners, Bob and David, both who work extremely hard to get first place. Unfortunately, there is only one winner and that is Bob. David becomes very jealous that he doesn't get recognition and only Bob does, even if they work equally as hard. The right thing for Bob to do was accept the win but a win for David too even though he did not come first materialistically. Moral of the story, take a win-win or no one will.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
"diagnose before you prescribe."

Reflection:
A doctor before prescribing any type of medication, needs to look and diagnose, to make sure the medicine prescribed is the correct one for the kind of sickness or need its intended for. If given the wrong prescription to the person without a diagnose they can have severe health problems or can die according to what is needed. This example goes for any situation in a person. If you give someone advice they don't need or incorrect, then that person's life ethics or morals can go down a drain because of the wrong advice one gives. We need to understand ones life in order for them to understand us. It is better to understand the person than to be understood in the wrong conditions. 

Habit 6: Synergize
"The whole is greater than the sum of its parts (1+1=3)"

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Four dimensions of renewal: Physical, mental, spiritual, social/emotional

Importance of setting goals

it is important to set goals for yourself because in order to accomplish a long term goal you must go through a few short term goals. For example your goal today might be to get to school on time but in order for that to happen you must have a set of smaller goals like getting out of the shower in no more than 20 minutes or getting out of the house with 10 minutes extra. There are several other goals that may need a lot to get to but at the end of the day you are happy and successful.

Six ways to Make People Like You

Six ways to Make People Like You

Six Ways to Make People Like You

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people

"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

• Reflection: This new rule is saying that you should become interested in what other people enjoy doing and what they like instead of trying to get them to like what you like. For example, if you want someone to be your friend, you should ask them what they like to do and try to become interested in the same topic. This way you guys have something in common and you guys will become friends that way.
• To apply this new rule i will become genuiely interested in other people.

Rule 2: Smile

"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you." 

"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."

"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

• Quote: "Let my soul smile through my heartand my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter smiles in sad hearts
• Reflection: This means that you should smile at people more often to show that you are happy to see them.  what this quote is trying to say is smile no matter what because smiling is a good thing. you will be much more of a like able person. people would want to be your friend because they will find you friendly and a very, very like able person. so you should smile and live a happy life because all life is precious.
  

Rule 3: Remembering names

"A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."

"If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."

Quote:Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names.

John F. Kennedy

Reflection: This quote is trying to say to be kind to you're enemy's and too forgive them but to remember their names because its very important to remember. Also if that if you remember someone name because it will make them remember you're name. They will want to be come friends with you because you know them and your kind to them. They will and would want to be your friend because having friends is the best thing you can ever have and they are very fun and funny people to have around you.

How to Remember names

• meet and repeat
• spell it out
• associate
• make connections
• choose to care
• Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
• "If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
  "Remember that the man you are  talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."
  
  • Quote: No siren did ever so charm the ear of the listener as the listening ear has charmed the soul of the siren. - Henry Taylor
  • Reflection: This rule is stating that you can make people like you because you are listening to what they have to say which means you are showing interest in them. ON the other hand, if you only talk about yourself and don't let them speak they will think you're selfish.

  Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
  "The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
  Reflection: If when talking to another person the only way a conversation will be interesting between the two will be when you talk about something the other person loves. It will automatically be boring if the other person hears you blabber about things that they don't like. If you don't know nothing on that subject, spend the day or night researching what it is so you can have an insight on the things that interests them. Starting a conversation about their interests will bring up enthusiasm in the conversation.
   Rule 6: Make the other person feel important- and do it sincerely.
  "The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."
  "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
  

  • Quote:  Whenever you go out-of-doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handclasp. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do; and then, without veering off direction, you will move straight to the goal. Keep your mind on the great and splendid things you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities that are required for the fulfillment of your desire.

  
  Overall Reflection: These six ways will make people like you because they will like that you are interested in them and that you talk about what interests them. Also because you will always smile at them and because you actually listen to what they say.